No man is an island and does need to work with others. Therefore, interpersonal communication skills are crucial. They will help you to get more friends and be able to gel with everyone around you. You will be able to have friends who will be willing to stand by you and not only be passing friends.
The five tips listed below will help you to win friends:
Be Humble yet Confident
I cannot over-emphasize this point and probably 80% of people with bad interpersonal skills are due to this reason, one way or another. No matter how hard you try to mask it, if you have a spirit of arrogance, it WILL come out when you speak to others. Thus the only cure is to correct your own attitude and realize that everyone can teach you a thing or two, yes, even that ‘loser’ in school. However, you must also have confidence when communicating and engaging others. Know that you are a great person that deserves to have good friends. No one likes to hang around people that are forever wallowing in their own self-pity.
Do not lie
No one likes a liar but someone who they can trust and bank on for certain. Come across as a genuine person who speaks their mind. Do not put up pretence because people can see through it. Honesty is the main ingredient of any long lasting friendship.
Do not overly criticize
The moment you get into the criticizing mode you are letting the person know that you are better than them. Everyone is better at something that you might not be able to do. Constructive criticism is okay and especially when asked for.
Good leaders are immediately able to gauge the opposite person’s strengths and areas of concern and let them know of it in subtle ways. Once you are able to achieve this you will be able to attract friends like bees to a pot of honey.
Listen to what others have to tell you
This skill is the stepping stone to success. You are not only hearing them which is physical but listening which is comprehending and responding appropriately. Do not decide to disagree with everything that the person is telling you.
Listening also includes remembering what has been told to you. You might probably not the entire thing but certainly the gist of it. Try and use the person’s name while addressing them. This will ensure their attention and help to build up rapport. Try out techniques to remember people’s names or else it will convey that you are just not bothered.
Perfect your questioning techniques
When you ask it immediately conveys that you are assimilating and absorbing the information. It also enables a conversation to move ahead. Questions convey that you care for the person and the conversation enough to be involved in it.
Admit if you are wrong
Lastly, admit if you are wrong: There will be times when you are wrong. It is good to accept that gracefully and move on. Friends acknowledge when you are gracious enough to admit that you cannot be right all the time. This will make you appear assertive but not aggressive. Friendship is a balancing act of many things and respect and communication are an important part of it.